Dating or Engaged

Redeemer has options for you whether you are seriously dating or engaged.

Seriously dating | Engaged | Frequently asked questions


Seriously dating

If you are currently seriously dating and looking for guidance and insight into your relationship, Redeemer offers a couple of options for you.

Premarital Seminar

Redeemer Downtown's Premarital Seminar is a one-day, six-hour course that discusses the meaning and purpose of marriage, the qualities necessary to have a healthy marriage, the true nature of love and how to effectively express it, communication and conflict resolution, role relationships, and sexuality in marriage.

Topics covered by the seminar include the following:

  • The biblical basis for marriage
  • Qualities that lead to a flourishing marriage
  • Ways to show love
  • Conflict and problem solving
  • Biblical roles of the wife and husband
  • Sex in marriage

This seminar is a lively day of biblical teaching on marriage, exercises that help a couple learn more about each other, and ending with a time of Q&A. This seminar is required if you wish to have a Redeemer pastor officiate at your wedding.

The Premarital Seminar will be offered four times annually by Redeemer Downtown, taught by Rev. Jeff White and hosted by married couples from our congregation.

The price per person is $75. If you have questions about the seminar, please email [email protected].

2019-2020 Seminar dates are: Oct 5, Jan 11, March 7 and May 16.


Relationship counseling

Redeemer Counseling Services provides counseling for couples in a private setting with a professional Christian counselor. For information, see get started.


Engaged

Congratulations on your engagement! As a Redeemer member or congregant, you may wish to have a Redeemer pastor officiate your wedding. Considering the size of our church and the number of pastors on staff, please note that the Redeemer pastor you initially request may already be at capacity and unable to officiate your wedding.

Getting married by a Redeemer pastor

If you wish to arrange for an officiating pastor from Redeemer, please visit Guidelines for Marriage Ceremonies by Redeemer Pastors. This document contains details on contacting Redeemer pastors and on suggested honorariums for the wedding ceremony and counseling sessions. It also includes the initial appointment questionnaire, which must be filled out before meeting with the pastor.

Participation in a premarital seminar is required for a Redeemer pastor to officiate at your wedding. Find more information or register for the Premarital Seminar.

Some Redeemer pastors will perform out-of-town ceremonies and others will not. You should discuss this in your initial contact with the pastor.

Getting married at W83 Ministry Center

If you wish to arrange for your wedding ceremony and/or reception to be at Redeemer’s W83 Ministry Center, please inquire at [email protected]. Click below to find out more details about wedding ceremonies at W83.

Weddings at W83


Other premarital opportunities

Redeemer Counseling Services also offers premarital and marital counseling sessions by appointment. Find more information.


Frequently asked questions: Premarital Seminar

What is the Premarital Seminar?

The seminar is a one-day, six-hour course that discusses the meaning and purpose of marriage, the qualities necessary to have a healthy marriage, the true nature of love and how to effectively express it, communication and conflict resolution, role relationships, and sexuality in marriage. It involves lectures and one-on-one interactions. It is required if you are being married by a Redeemer pastor.

When should I contact a pastor to officiate at my wedding?

Generally, you should contact a Redeemer pastor six months prior to the wedding date. If you are not able to contact the pastor six months in advance of the ceremony, accommodations may be made, depending on the pastor’s schedule. Please visit Guidelines for Marriage Ceremonies by Redeemer Pastorsfor details.

What other counseling options are available if I’m not engaged yet, but am currently in a relationship?

Redeemer Counseling Services provides a wide variety of counseling services including individual, relationship and premarital counseling.

What if I’m getting married out-of-state by a non-Redeemer pastor?

We highly recommend attending the Redeemer Premarital Seminar and/or pursuing counseling at Redeemer Counseling Services. We can provide a letter certifying that you have attended the seminar if needed by your church/pastor.

Is the Redeemer Premarital Seminar considered premarital counseling?

The Redeemer Premarital Seminar is not premarital counseling. While the issues presented and discussed during the seminar are important and helpful for couples considering or preparing for marriage, they are simply a starting point. We recommend that couples meet with a counselor or pastor for more individualized counseling after attending the seminar.